Creek Running North

Good for you. 

But, wow, I didn’t think that was done anymore, save in the most formal, traditional and religious circumstances.  Even Mrs. (Her first name) (His last name) would at least not erase her individuality.  Even my mother, born 1925, never went by Mrs. (his first name) (their last name), only using her own first name.

Weird too, because, I can’t remember the last time I was called Mrs. (His last name), although it has happened.  Even after I changed it (Ten years after the usual time) for non-traditional reasons.

Unfortunately, chivalry is not quite dead.

When we got married, for a variety of reasons, I took my wife’s last name.  This has been mostly just fine, but occasionally it flusters people to no end.
It’s especially funny when she gets mail or some other kind of notice addressed to Mrs. Brett Hendrickson, since it was her last name in the first place.

My wife often initiates hiring folks for various maintenance tasks (e.g. tree trimming). She’s kept her obviously non-European surname. It’s amusing when someone shows up and I answer the door, and the only name they have is hers. “Are you, ah, Mister I_______?” they ask with a quizzical look when they see my obviously European visage. “Why, yes,” I answer, “and you must be _______!”

Of course, it’s a lot less fun when they make that assumption on the phone, but I never “correct” them.

Technically, that’s right. There is no Mrs. (her name) (his last name), because Mrs. is a title, and she’s not married to herself.

That being said, it’s a really anachronistic thing to do, which they no doubt were ordered into by some wedding etiquette book. Miss Manners would have told them better, had they listened.

Really, really annoying: I’m hyphenated, and (prominent local museum), instead of listing me by the name our membership was bought under, listed me as Mrs. (my name) (his last).

Which isn’t just annoying and presumptuous and rude, it’s wrong.

Geez, if you’re gonna be a “traditionalist” look it up.

The whole name thing IS problematic. The best story I ever heard about it, was my best friend’s brother’s wife’s first husband, when he and she were discussing the name thing before they married (they were academics) , he suggested,
“we should BOTH change our names! To “The Jetsons"!"

I was at a wedding last weekend. The groom had been struggling with the fact that his bride insisted that she be walked down the aisle and given away by her father. So he had his parents walk him down the aisle and give him away too.

My brother and sister-in-law made up a new last name. It’s hyphenated, which makes me scratch my head just a little bit.

Most rude, sir. The accepted form is “Mrs. and Mr. Becky Lum.”

I changed my name when I got married (though from a European name to a sort of non-Euro one), and I’m not sure I’d do it again if the choice presented itself. However, I have always eschewed the “Mrs.” label—it’s just too retro.

I do like the “Dr. and Mr.” combo, though. If only I had a doctorate…

Naming conventions are interesting.  My favorite (as in, odd) is the Hungarian (my sister-in-law is Hungarian).

Let’s say that Ms Emily Gareb marries Mr John Chevre; thereafter, she is properly both Ms Emily Gareb and Mrs John Chevre, but nothing else.